Privacy
Dateme has no accounts and asks for almost nothing. But it is deliberately open: everyone who has the answer link sees every name and which dates each person picked, because agreeing on a date is the whole point.
What is stored
- The name you type when answering. A first name or nickname is enough if that suits you better.
- The dates you ticked, each keeping its own copy of the day, so a date withdrawn later does not erase the fact that you said you could make it.
- That you answered "none of these", if you did. That is recorded as a real answer rather than as silence.
- When you answered.
- The request itself, its title, year, months and candidate dates, as set by whoever created it.
No e-mail address, no password, no account, and nothing that follows you between requests.
Who can see it
Everyone with the answer link. The results page is open to anyone holding it, and it lists each date with the names of the people who can make it. This is different from most tools and it is intentional: the group needs to see the tally to settle on a date. If you would rather your availability were not visible to the others, do not answer, tell the organiser directly instead.
Whoever holds the Create link can additionally change the dates on offer, and remove a person together with everything they answered.
Those links are the only key. There are no passwords, anyone who ends up with a link can use it, and a link cannot be revoked. Nothing is verified either: anyone can type any name and answer more than once.
What not to put in it
Dateme is a convenience tool, not a confidential channel. Availability can itself be revealing, a pattern of dates can say something about health, religion or family circumstances, so share only what you are comfortable with the whole group seeing, and use the free text of an e-mail rather than this if a date needs explaining.
How long it is kept
Until somebody removes it. Whoever holds the Create link can delete you and all of your answers from the request themselves, which is the quickest route: ask them.
There is no automatic expiry, and no way to delete a whole date request yet, so an old request stays until the operator removes it by hand. That is a known gap.
Cookies
None. Dateme sets no cookies at all, so there is no cookie banner to click away. There is no analytics, no advertising, no third-party scripts, and the fonts are served from this site rather than from anyone else's, so opening a page does not tell another company that you visited.
Who else is involved
The service runs on servers operated for Brightness AS, behind Cloudflare, which carries the traffic and therefore sees the requests that reach us. Nothing else: Dateme makes no outbound calls to anyone.
Because the secret link travels in the address bar, it also appears in server and Cloudflare access logs, and in your own browser history. That is inherent to a link that works without an account.
Your rights
Under the GDPR you can ask for a copy of your personal data, ask for it to be corrected or deleted, and object to how it is used. Whoever created the date request decided to collect the answers, so start with them, they can remove you and your answers themselves. Brightness AS operates the service and can remove data on request.
You can also complain to your national data protection authority. In Norway that is Datatilsynet.
No privacy contact address is published here rather than publishing one that might be wrong. Ask whoever sent you the link; they hold the data.
Changes
Changes land with a new version of the service; the version number in the footer tells you which build you are reading.